"You are bad!"
"I hate you!"
As a parent is hard sometimes, is not it? Yes, you know, in your head that is not your sweet, loving preschooler really hate you. But when these words as if they nailed a scarlet letter expresses fumble on the head with a toy. The words are "easy", but the effect feels really safe.
At this age children do not have to beat the subtle language of the bush. If you are angry, the show. If they do not,their way, are about to introduce you to their frustration. It 's normal. It 'just does not feel when it happens to you. What should I do?
(1) to issue, to look behind the words: The child does not always have the language to explain his frustration. If the child says, "I hate you", can be difficult, with a task to get something he wants, or the expression of an emotion as fear. As parents we have to be a detective and figure out what our childrenreally trying to relay.
(2) Help your child recognize the anger: If the child can recognize when he is angry, will have an easier use of expression and feeling, instead of anchoring out. Take the time to ask your child, "if you mad, what does your body feel?" Help him to appoint her as it happened, I can tell the face and body that you are angry. If you're having trouble adding the rear wheel on the truck. This is very frustrating! This isto validate what they feel the child and help him make a name for the emotions he feels.
(3) Give your child the right words, if the child continues to talk about what happened. Remind him when he's angry earlier in the day and what he said. Let him know that when he says: "I hate you", it hurts your feelings. Then ask, "What can you say instead?" If you are unsure, give you the right words. "Instead of saying," I hate you "when you are angry inside,I say: "I'm angry, please help me." Help him express his feelings in practice so that when he is angry again, you can call on these skills.
(4) Insert the calming techniques: We're all angry. Help your child with a lot of anger in a constructive way is a gift that uses it for the rest of his life. Introduction and practice some techniques if the child is open to listening to music (not when in the heat of battle!). Count to 10, sing a song, and talk to you, is thatsome simple ways to calm down when angry. One of my favorite techniques is to "smell the roses and blow the clouds away." This is a great way to teach children to take a few deep breaths.
(5) To teach the techniques of problem-solving: Let your child know that solving a lot of opportunities, problems. Make sure he knows that if something is not working properly, you can always try something different! You can tell your son: "Ask of me, can you help me with this bike, please?" or "that does not workright - we can do something else, "Help your child's play, think of solutions, the safe, fair and points of view are to be successful ..
(6) Do you see your language ". Do Monkey See, Monkey" Unfortunately, in this case, if you say in anger or harsh language you normally use, "hate" of objects (such as the clothes I hate, hate when the phone rings during your time NAP), will take delivery of the child and use it yourself. At a time when you are not careful, you can here the same words'Ll be with you!
Perhaps most important for you to keep in mind while this is happening is that the child does not really hate you. So take a deep breath. Sometimes parents have to, because to smell the flowers and remember to blow away the clouds. After all, it is likely that a clear sky in the distance.
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