"I hate you!" - Six Ways to your pre-school child with angry words Cope

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"I hate you!"

Being a parent is hard sometimes, is not it? Yeah, you know, in your head that your sweet, loving child under school age do not really hate you. But when this word is like a scarlet letter is the nail head with a ruling Tinker Toy. Words are "child", but the effect feels certainly true

At this age children do not beat around the bush subtle language. If they are angry the show. If not tell themtheir way, will let you know their frustration. And 'normal. Simply do not feel when it happens to you. What should I do?

(1) for the issue behind the words: My child is not always the language to explain his frustration. If the child says "I hate you" could be a difficult task to get something, what he wants, or expression of an emotion like fear. As parents, we need to be a detective and figure out what our childrenreally trying to relay.

(2) Help your child recognize the anger: If the child can recognize when he is angry, he will find it easier to express and deal with the feeling instead of lashing out. Take time to ask your child, "if you mad, what does your body feel?" Help identify it while it happened: "I can tell by your face and body that are angry. Having trouble setting the wheel back on your truck. This is very frustrating! This isto validate what you feel and help the child to name the emotion he feels.

(3) Give your child the right words to speak, if the child is quiet what happened. Remember when he was upset earlier in the day and what he said. Let him know that if he says: "I hate you, it hurts your feelings. Then ask, "What can you say instead?" If uncertain, give him the right words. "Instead of saying," I hate "when angry inside,I say: "I'm angry, please help me." Help to train him to express his feelings, so when he is angry again, you could call on these skills.

(4) Insert the calming techniques: We are all angry. Helping your child with anger constructively is a gift that I use them for the rest of his life. Introduction and practical techniques if your child listen to the music (if not in the heat of battle! "). Count to 10, singing a song and talk to themselves, aresome simple ways to calm down when angry. One of my favorite techniques is "the scent of roses and blow away the clouds." This is a good way to teach children to take a few deep breaths.

(5:00) Teach problem-solving techniques: Let your child know that there are many possibilities to solve problems. Make sure he knows that if something is not working properly, you can always try another! You can tell your son: "Do not ask me, can you help me with this bike, please?" or "not workingright - we can play something else. "Help your child to think of solutions that are safe and fair, and that can be a success.

(6) Watch your language: Unfortunately, in this case, "Monkey See, Monkey Do". If you say hard words in anger or in general: "I hate to objects (which I hate doing the laundry, I hate when the phone rings during your NAP), pick up your child and use yourself. Sometimes when you're not careful, you could here the same wordCome soon!

Perhaps most important for you to keep in mind during all this happens is that the child does not really hate you. To take a deep breath. Sometimes even parents need to remember to smell flowers and blow away the clouds. Finally, it is likely that a clear sky on the horizon are.