What can I say to my son? Many times students do not know why you feel anxious. It will be important not to burn a lot of questions to the child for fear that your child might raise questions. Stay calm and think about the "message" of any of your dialogue. Maybe you want to say: "Tell me what you want, I know how to do school ..." [Do you have a sense of openness?] Or: "Tell me what you think could be the problem ..." [Do you want to hear her askFirst opinion?] Make sure not to project your fear of the school on it. If your child goes to school, perhaps for the first time - and you have difficulty in meeting the setting, please provide an additional aid of a competent consultant. Addiction is treatable, but you have to do the work! Communicate with your child, you want to help make this chapter of their lives. As you will go through this an important model for the interaction withother issues that arise in the years to come.
What are the possible reasons for their fear?
1. One is a sort of parting with peers or adults in the school significantly.
2. Another type of separation is separation anxiety, especially when children are attending school are reported for the first time. It 's the downside of a close relationship between parents and children, but is evidence of alleged "too close" and their fear of change.
3. Another reason is the fear ofnot make it home on the bus ... or many other issues will be discussed in the next few weeks.
What can I do to help?
• When children feel disconnected to their peers or their teachers, they can stomach "stunned"! Ways to remedy this feeling of being separated from an appointment with the teacher. Ask if he / she could be your child some jobs in the area to help. Children love the feeling of importance! Also ask if he / she may take a few minutes of qualityTime during the break or any other time of day until the child feels better connected. You can also request that your child be placed in a small group (a group of "friendship") with the school counselor. Usually these groups meet once a week for 4 to 6 weeks. It works a treat!
• If a child goes through school insecure - is often the separation anxiety. Also listen to the child and listen to your messages. Again, this will help you if you have a feeling "outside the normal range," Loss, ifYour child goes to school. You must also help the child to adapt. Some things that will help the child to send a family photo or draw a heart in the palm of your hand (and if you miss your child, he / she looks on the heart.). Be positive about the time you will spend with them after school. Look happy! If the child sees her cry or hesitate to go to school - to go off alarm bells in her heart and mind.
• If a child is afraid ofreturn trip by bus - there is help! I like to teach children of all ages, to restructure their fears. Here's the fast version.
- If your child can read / write - two vertical columns on the document. On the left is the pillar of thoughts and feelings. Make a list of all their thoughts and feelings, as they say, even if you think they are irrational. They are real, baby, and you're validates their listing of them. Please resist saying: "I do not think so," or "This isstupid "or" just be "positive, messages or other well-meaning but harmful. We do not minimize the pain that is legitimate for them. The second column is the column for the truth. Encourage your child to think that all could be truth of the matter (s). The third step is to field in the second column, the column truth.
- If the child does not even read or write - here is an example of how to use their hands, in principle, confirm the child's feelings of anxiety through the leftHand as the "place" where these feelings are represented. Then the right hand is the "place" for statements that are true. You can help if they need it, but I encourage you to make you think so many things that are true. Then encourage them to camp there! I'm thinking back to the left column again, but the column encouraging truth going every time!
- Example 1 - If your child is afraid to go home by bus - read the column of truth wouldthis: there will be assistants on the bus, you will have a tag name, the driver has a phone and the like.
- Example 2 - If the child is afraid to go to school - the truth column will look like this: You're safe and OK, we'll miss you, your job is to go to school, have fun, learn how you can meet new friends, others children will miss her family as well, but you can choose to be in order.
- This method Reframing or exercise is also good for depressionWorse and more.
Disclaimer: The comments are not a substitute for professional advice and should not be all that you need. The comments are ideas to encourage you and stimulate other ideas that might be useful in a general sense for your situation.
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